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Narcissism is a spectrum disorder with the most severe end of the spectrum considered a narcissistic personality disorder. A woman can have several narcissistic traits and not fit the personality disorder. Mothers with only a few traits listed can negatively affect their daughters in insidious ways which is explained in Dr. McBride's book.

(Check all those that apply to your relationship with your mother)
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___1. When you discuss your life issues with your mother, does she or did she divert the discussion to talk about herself?

___2. When you discuss your feelings with your mother, does she or did she try to top the feeling with her own?

___3. Does or did your mother act jealous of you?

___4. Does or did your mother lack empathy for your feelings?

___5. Does or did your mother only support those things you do that reflect on her as a "good mother"?

___6. Have you consistently felt a lack of emotional closeness with your mother?

___7. Have you consistently questioned whether or not your mother likes you or loves you?

___8. Does or did your mother only do things for you when others can see?

___9. When something happens in your life (accident, illness, divorce), does or did your mother react with how it will affect her rather than how you feel?

___10. Is or was your mother overly conscious of what others think (neighbors, friends, family, co-workers)?

___11. Does or did your mother deny her own feelings?

___12. Does or did your mother blame things on you or others rather than own responsibility for her own feelings or actions?

___13. Is or was your mother hurt easily and then carries a grudge for a long time without resolving the problem?

___14. Did or do you feel you were a slave to your mother?

___15. Did or do you feel you were responsible for your mother's ailments or sickness (headaches, stress, illness)?

___16. Did you have to take care of your mother's physical needs as a child?

___17. Did or do you feel unaccepted by your mother?

___18. Did or do you feel your mother was critical of you?

___19. Did or do you feel helpless in the presence of your mother?

___20. Were or are you shamed often by your mother?

___21. Did or do you feel your mother knows the real you?

___22. Did or does your mother act like the world should revolve around her?

___23. Do you find it difficult to be a separate person from your mother?

___24. Did or does your mother appear phony to you?

___25. Did or does your mother want to control your choices?

___26. Did or does your mother swing from egotistical to depressed mood?

___27. Did or do you feel you had to take care of your mother's emotional needs as a child?\

___28. Did or do you feel manipulated in the presence of your mother?

___29. Did or do you feel valued, by mother, for what you do rather than who you are?

___30. Was or is your mother controlling, acting like a victim or martyr?

___31. Does or did your mother make you act different from how you really feel?

___32. Does your mother compete with you?

___33. Does or did your mother always have to have things her way?

Note: All of these questions relate to narcissistic traits. The more questions you checked, the more likely your mother has narcissistic traits and this has caused some difficulty for you as a growing daughter and adult. If you have checked several questions above, we would like to invite you to join our discussion board where you can find support from other daughters raised by mothers with narcissistic traits. You will also find a link on this website where you can register to be notified when the release of Dr. McBride's book is announced.